This is a great piece on why being nicer isn’t the answer. Lu = Anna Lu = slang for sellout Asian woman who only dates white guys and likely harbors hate for Asian men.
Credit to: Roving_redditor
“My father was caring, sincere, funny, smart, devoted, a good dancer and singer, a practical joker, a perpetual student, a romantic, a hard worker, a dreamer, loving, and in our lives for too few years. I was a daddy’s girl and he died when I was fifteen. I have continued to imagine what he might of thought of what I have done through the years, the bad, the good, and especially the wonderful.” - Amy Tanwomen will only respect men who set boundaries and exert control over them (if not on the macro scale of greater society, then at least on the micro scale of everyday life). Laissez faire is interpreted as a sign of weakness (whether there is objective truth to it or not). They have more contempt for a morally just powerless man than for a morally degenerate man that exerts power in destructive ways, such as criminals.
It just goes to show that it wasn’t the supposed misogyny on the part of Asian-American men that drove Lu’s such as Amy Tan into such venom against their other half.
In fact, I daresay that aside from pressures from white supremacy, Asian men are cornered into this predicament because they were not “misogynistic” enough (as a matter of fact, research study supports that Asian-American men are actually the most egalitarian).
In other words, we failed to pinpoint bad behaviors destructive to our already fragile minority community, and decisively put our foot down upon those behaviors, or socially shame and penalize those types of behaviors. We failed to take charge of our social circles, even in pre-dominantly Asian enclaves. This is the reward for being respectful, wonderful, and caring. While trying hard not to be misogynistic, that label gets tacked on anyways. That’s because it’s not the guilty that gets tried for crimes, it’s the powerless that gets tried for crimes.
Has anyone ever heard of black men being stereotyped as misogynist? No. But in reality, what does lyrics in hiphop show us? Talking about women as if they are interchangeable, replaceable, disposable toys. The special term they have for women is “shorties”, I guess equivalent to the white term “chicks” and “bitches”(which begs the question, since when did Asian men coin derisive terms for women in America? So misogyny ehhh?) Black men had also been openly chauvinistic about black women dating other races (a micro-version of white men’s chauvinism and possessiveness over women of all races), while turning around to openly holler at other women. They can yell out “hey, shorty!” out in the streets, yet no feminists come in to shout them down. Through all this they somehow get a pass. Why is that? Sure, there might be grumblings from some black women about the deadbeat tendencies of black men, but those are miniscule complaints because the criticisms are only behavioral (and deadbeat guys apparently have no trouble finding mates to go deadbeat on anyways so no real criticism). This is in stark contrast to the genetic criticisms from Asian women regarding their male counterparts. The level of slander has no comparison in other minority groups.
This is a demonstration that overall,
They will save the most ball-chopping type of criticism and venom for the former, and only token complaints for the latter.
#When Asian-American men, already powerless on the macro scale, failed to exert any type of power on the micro scale by checking bad behavior in their own community, in their own social lives, that’s when they have damned themselves into oblivion with their own kindness.
Are there philosophical women who see past the outward trappings of power into the moral fiber of a man? Sure there are, but they are the exception rather than the rule, and no Asian man should center their life strategies around the luck of running into exceptions. This is not to say that only women are superficial. Fact is, most people in this world, men and women, are superficial (men manifest this bandwagoning aboard power in different ways as discussed elsewhere). So to close, we are so contemptuously despised by our female half not because we are repressive, but because we are so new-aged progressive to the point it threatens our own social existence.
P.S. - Lastly, inb4 someone says this is so “redpill”. This is merely common sense if one is observant enough of his own life experiences. The so-called redpill is nothing but a buzzword label seeking to hype a few common sense points about human behavior into an overly-inflated and overly-analyzed “body of knowledge” or “revelation”, a bandwagon upon which some lost souls in the First World can jump onto. I suppose a spot of cum I left on the hotel sheets can be over-analyzed into a “body of knowledge” as well if one puts his mind to it enough <shrugs>. But we’ll be doing ourselves a disservice if we shy from certain ideas formed from plain ole observation, just because some twerps slap a movie-copied label on those ideas and try to claim originality and ownership of them, common sense points about human nature that had been there since beginning of humanity.
Slipped from the Horse’s Mouth: Why Asian Men Being Progressive and anti-Misogynist was the Real Cause of Betrayal from Asian Women, Rather Than Any Real “Misogyny” as Claimed.