Guide -- Dating guide for Asian men - Part 10 - The Biggest Mistakes That Asian Men Make with Women

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Dating guide for Asian men - Part 10 - The Biggest Mistakes That Asian Men Make with Women

Appearance

● Matching any negative stereotype in any way
● look girly / nerd culture - skinny, nerdy, geeky, glasses, poor dresser, hideous hair, zero grooming, hideous mustaches, etc
● unconfident body language

Masculinity

● NOT being masculine. This bleeds into lots of things.

spineless / passive against bullies / racists
too shy to ask girls out
not leading the interaction. Expecting her to lead.
being too needy
taking rejection personally and being thinned skin. Easily defeated instead of trying again.

● Bad states / bad mindset - especially a mindset that is screwed by the Asian male negative stereotypes

you assume women won’t date you so you don’t even try
assume you’re unattractive so you don’t work on your appearance

During Approach

● Failing to recognize her interests/signals.
● Approaching randomly instead of approaching females that show him interest. [This is okay once you get more skilled since many women don’t show interest.]
● approaching while pretending to be a friend (hiding your intentions like a creep)
● Using complex openers instead of something simple or observational.
● Staring at her breasts / butt / lips / your shoes

During Conversation

● Being boring
● Too logical / problem solving instead of focusing and amplifying emotions.
● Not escalating / showing romantic interest quickly enough
● divulging everything like an autobiography. You leave nothing for her imagination. There’s no mystery. Less is truly more with women. She wants to figure you out.

Overall

● If she see you as a friend = trust / comfort / rapport without attraction
● If she see you as a player = attraction without trust / comfort / rapport
● Flaking = doesn’t know you well enough. Flaking means women ignore you after a good interaction.