Guide -- Dating guide for Asian men - Part 1 - Introduction / Understanding the Dating Disparity / Why are afwm so common / Why are amwf so rare

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    Am = Asian male
    Af = Asian female
    wf = white female
    xf = non-Asian females
    xm = non-Asian males
    wm = white male

    Some people immediately dismiss everything when they see the “wrong” words so I’ll use the following…
    “weak” = weak men = beta men = push over = not confident = shy = loser = geek = nerd = unattractive
    "strong" = strong men = alpha men = assertive = confident = cool = attractive

    Dating guide for Asian men - Part 1 -Introduction

    I wrote this for my fellow Asian males who are tired of be being left out of the dating scene. The information will help you find real and meaningful relationships with a female of any ethnicity.

    This guide gives Actionable Advice to Empower Asian men.

    I want to make clear that I’ve met more decent whites than bad, it’s just the bad sticks out more. I also know there are plenty of scummy Asian men. However, I think it’s safe to say lots of decent Asian men are getting screwed over.

    I want you to prosper and to share it with your fellow Asians. Racism never goes away on its own. Minorities have always had to fight to get more equality in all racist Anglo countries.

    Here’s the quick big picture version for those who don’t have time to read everything: This is a general overview. Exceptions always exist, etc, etc.

    Why is there a dating disparity:

    Starting with the big eight - The biggest ones have two bullets [applies to Asian men and Asian females]:

    ● ● internalized racism / self hate and white worship.
    See internalized racism expose
    See Where did Asians learn to hate themselves and worship whites

    ● ● Systemic and global anti-Asian male racism and hyper-sexualization of Asian females with only white males. This is pervasive across Western societies, but especially in super racist Anglo-American nations. Large minority to likely majority of society including peers, friends, etc will encourage afwm and discourage Amxf even Amaf. It’s that insidious. Here is their history of smearing Asian men since the first day they met us. No, none of this is made up. It’s all real

    Here is the hypersexualization of Af with almost only white males - almost never Asian men.

    And yes, racism is that important. One very good looking half Asian half white guy did an online dating experiment using the same photo. In one profile he claimed to be Asian and in the other he claimed to be white. The difference was astronomical.


    This shocked even me. I knew racism was a problem but I thought Asian men often looked too nerdy but this destroys many excuses used by racists:

    • it’s just preferences
    • Am stop whining
    • Am are too ugly
    • They need more confidence
    • They have no personality
    • They’re too shy
    • etc

    ● ● Asian culture/upbringing based on obedience, submissiveness, tolerance makes us easy targets for racism and also creates what the west calls “weak” men eg spineless. Our parents taught us to mind our own business and just worry about ourselves instead of fighting back. This has resulted with Anti-Asian racism being wide spread and socially accepted, whereas they tread carefully around any other race because they know there are consequences. Women including many of our own hate “weak” men. It’s repulsive and have they have no respect for us. What’s worse, Af end up showing tolerance/obedience to racist wm because they at least, act like men, even if despicable. See a full list of cultural defects here.

    In general, we are not men. We don’t act nor look like men. You are not territorial about your women and are ultra stupid too. You allow wm into your social circle to poach women while they cock block you from their women while spreading lies about you.

    You think you’re the “bigger man” by being “above all this”? No. You’re the biggest BITCH and everyone knows it except you and our well-meaning but oblivious parents and governments.

    ● Regardless of what is said. It’s Asian men who must take full responsibility. Our forefathers totally fucked up. For decades, we didn’t fight our enemies, didn’t shame the wrong types of Af (even encouraged them dating wm), and groomed our sons into “weak” men to be bullied. We raised sheep to the slaughter for decades.

    ● Physical differences. Asian men are smaller and shorter on average = less masculine. This is changing, but for now, it’s generally accepted truth. Asian females are shorter and smaller = more feminine. It’s partly genetic, but largely diet, malnutrition in Asia from western imperialism, and a disinterest in athletics combined with a suicidal “nerd culture”.

    ● ● Asian men who feel beaten by the negative media images and lose confidence in themselves.

    ● ● The vast majority of you, especially clueless immigrants, match negative stereotypes such as a nerd, geek, scrawny, girly, girly hair, etc. So many Asian men do not look or behave like masculine men. You look like female repellent.

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    To most non-Asian women [I suspect to many Asian women themselves] you guys are the male equivalent of…

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    See why the East Asian male “look” is sexual suicide

    ● ● Asian men who resort to complaining instead of improving.

    ● The vast majority of our communities are brainwashed beyond belief and our “leaders” keep this nonsense going.

    In addition to whites, we have three types of internal enemies

    • ● ● Selfish - Asian traitors/sellouts are authors, film makers, etc. They’re also known as sell outs who slander Asians by filling the demeaning / stereotypical roles to support the afwm / evil ugly sexless Am narratives. This is a minority but they are given big support by white racists to spread their poison globally.
    • Spineless - Asians who see the injustice, can help, but choose not to because it’s just easier to go along with it. A lot of our forefathers were this group.
    • Stupid - Useful idiot Asians [male and female] who buy into the brainwashing and slander Asian men while singing undeserved praise to white males. A lot of our people are this.

    If the system works, the stereotypes assigned to the various races are accepted by the races themselves as reality, as fact, and racist love reigns. The minority’s reaction to racist policy is acceptance and apparent satisfaction.

    In terms of the utter lack of cultural distinction in America, the destruction of an organic sense of identity, the complete psychological and cultural subjugation of a race of people, the people of Chinese and Japanese [East Asian mainly] ancestry stand out as white racism’s only success.

    FRANK CHIN BLOG: Racist Love:

    Why Asian men “can’t” get dates:

    There are lots of problems, but the biggest one is that WE ARE OUR OWN WORST ENEMY.

    rarely approach females [confirmed by all females]. Females rarely approach any race of men.
    ● paucity of “strong” Am role models in the media and life.
    ● poorer social skills due to more strict upbringing, language barrier, racism, seeing awful stereotypes as role models, etc
    ● take dating too seriously and seek marriage material types, which further shrinks their dating pool size.
    ● cling onto Af because they feel it’s safe, thus lowering their perceived value while raising the Af’s value. We make ourselves too available despite the poor treatment some Af give us. Most women hate spineless men and punish you even more by ignoring you.
    ● Asian culture/families want Am to date exclusively Asian female, which xf perceive as "Asian guys don’t like non-Asian girls"
    ● Asian culture/families give their sons suicidal advice - “be a nice boy, be smart, earn money. Women like that.”. They may like that, but they need a man first and foremost.
    ● Cultural clash for x-females dating Asian males. There’s less of a clash for Asian females dating white males because we’re more familiar with their culture already whereas xf will likely clash with Asian mother in laws and added responsibilities. I doubt the severity of this reason.
    ● Accent and Voice. Generally higher pitched and softer voice. This can be improved through training.

    Why Asian females date out

    ● Mixed babies - Af want to breed away their Asian features due to the hapa beauty myth combined with self hate due to Eurocentric beauty standards imposed upon them.
    ● Simply put, white racist hate makes Asians hate everything about themselves and desire to “whiten” eg only date white. This is not a mere “preference” but mental rape into submission.
    ● Believes the racist negative stereotypes of Asian men and Asian culture. She is embarrassed to be be seen Am or even identify as Asian due to the awful image.
    ● Asian females wish to be accepted into the mainstream instead of being the perpetual foreigner.
    ● Hypergamy - currently, whites are at the top of society and women prefer to date up and gain access to white privilege
    ● Xm are much more aggressive and ask females out, but are especially confident with Af because many vocally shun Am and Am are total push overs.
    ● Af riding the “yellow fever” wave because it mostly benefits their social value. Some are concerned with what’s happening to Asian males, but many are ignorant, don’t care, or are unaware of the size of the problem…
    ● Lots of inferior white losers, misogynists, etcare rejected by white women and should die alone but instead prey on AKA “preference” self-hating and naive Asian females who wrongly believe these degenerates are “egalitarian and honorable white men” they saw in Western media, but such white men are often thinly disguised racists who hate Asians but prey on naive Asian women for easy sex.
    ● White males go after Asian females who are rarely as obese as many white females are.
    ● White males go after Asian females who are rarely extreme feminists like white females
    ● “Yellow fever” from white guys who bought into the racist and sexually objectifying stereotypes of Asian women such as submissive, sex crazed, and stupid
    ● Afwm is the most common inter-racial relationship and is the most heavily supported by all forms of media.
    ● Af can’t get the Am they want so they go after wm.

    Keys to Getting a Girl

    It’s not that hard guys. If you aren’t short or ugly then you simply need to…
    ● NEVER match bad stereotypes in any way [easy]
    ● Fix your mindset and fix your frames of mind
    ● Be more assertive / territorial / aggressive
    Get fit as in get big [easy, but takes some time 6 months to - 2 years]
    ● Style yourself like an adult [easy]
    ● Dress well [easy]
    ● Get basic conversation skills [a few weeks to months]
    Approach girls [easy]
    Escalate [80-90% of getting a girl is this] [easy]

    You can see the full guide on how Asian men can improve here and you can read the full guide on how Asian men can meet girls here.

    If you are very short / ugly then I am sorry, but your only options are to have power, status, fame, money or one amazing personality. Power and/or status and/or fame would get you there faster though.

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    core; debunk anti Asian lie - patriarchy; wtam; wtaw - kw hypermasculineAZN, misogylinity, am most egalitarian but less dateable - Negotiating New Asian American Masculinities [1999] [usa] [study] [quote] [data] [big] [final]+.pdf

    page 14 and 15 - smoking gun - wm rated at 50, am rated at 35. this is insane. they’re at 66% of wm.

    am rated as significantly less attractive than wm by both af and wf

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